My Butterfly Dream

Crazy thoughts and not so wild ideas

The greatest gift to our children.

The greatest gift we can give our own children is to show them how to be content; and we do this by being content ourselves.

When we use our children to stay in relationships that do not fulfil us, we are only teaching them that this is normal and it will be okay for them to be in similar relationships when they grow up.

When we are selfish, we teach our children that having selfish people in their lives is acceptable.

When we have shadow sides that we are aware of, like lying, manipulation, or selfishness and we do nothing about it except admit to these traits, we teach our children that this behaviour is acceptable and those are the types of people they may have in their future because this will be the norm for them.

When we behave in cowardly ways, and cannot make decisions best for ourselves, we teach our children that this is the way to live life. When we blame everyone else and everything else, like our past, then we teach our children that it’s okay to live life unhappily. We teach them that being unhappy is acceptable.
No matter what we give them or what we say to them, children learn from our behaviour, not only our words.

When we have healthy relationships that’s vital for our wellbeing, we teach our children the importance of having healthy relationships.

When we are brave enough to work on those parts of ourselves that we struggle with, we teach our children to accept all of who they are. We teach them bravery.

When we make difficult choices but those that are right for our souls, we teach our children to always follow their true paths. We teach them resilience.

When we become who we want to be, we teach our children to be themselves. We teach them love.

The greatest gift we can give our children is to show them how to love themselves, and we do this by loving ourselves.